Feb 20, 2015

5 rituals for a strong relationship

Valentine’s Day may be over, but that doesn’t mean you can’t recreate that special feeling year round. Here are five rituals you can incorporate into your daily life to make your relationship stronger, healthier and happier.

The daily check-in
Communication is one of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship, but it’s sometimes hard to talk about more than the kids or work. Just like companies hold regular team meetings to make sure everyone is on the same page, try to check-in with your partner on a daily basis to stay connected with them over the long-term. You could talk about your day, ask your partner about something that may be bothering you, tell them how much you appreciate them, or share your plans and dreams.

The ritual
Rituals are little things you do that become a regular habit in your routine. They may include having breakfast together each morning, chatting about your day before bed, giving your partner a kiss whenever you leave the house or arrive home, or going on a date every Friday night. Rituals can help strengthen a relationship by forging a closer connection to your partner and creating moments that are uniquely yours. 

The workout
The old adage of ‘couples who sweat together, stay together’ could be true after all. According to one study, couples that participated in an exciting physical challenge or activity reported feeling more satisfied with their relationship and more in love with their partner than those who don’t. Exercise is a great way to get the endorphins pumping and allows you to spend time with your partner, while keeping you both fit and healthy.

The date
Research shows that experiences can make us happier than possessions, so why not spice up your relationship by getting creative on your next date night. Instead of going to your usual restaurant and seeing a movie, consider taking a class together, going to a live gig or enjoying a sunset picnic. Your date night doesn’t have to be expensive or time-consuming, as long as you’re spending time together and doing something a little different.

The power of vulnerability
Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston and in 2010 presented a TED talk on the power of vulnerability, which has now been viewed over 18 million times. Rather than seeing vulnerability as a weakness, Brené found that people who embraced vulnerability had stronger relationships than those who didn’t. Being willing to say ‘I love you’ first, doing something where there are no guarantees or investing in a relationship that may or may not work out are all examples of embracing vulnerability.

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